When I first decided to start this blog, I assumed I would get backlash. I knew some people were going to call me a bad mom for wanting to be the back-up parent. I knew some people wouldn’t like that I am calling for dads to work just as hard at parenting as moms do. And I also knew that some of the stay-at-home mom community might feel offended by my posts. The first two I can’t change. But the third one means a great deal to me, and I want to clear the air now.
As you probably know, one of the biggest battles between women on the internet is the stay-at-home mom vs. the working mom debate. But I’m not here for that.
Before I was a mom, a judgmental thought would cross my mind when I saw a mom say or do something in public that I would “never” say or do to my future kid.
And then Brecken was born.
Don’t get me wrong, I knew being a mom would be hard. But I had no idea how many different types of hard it could be all at once. I think I’d only been a mom two months when I thought to myself, “That’s it! There’s no shaming anyone for how they take care of their children!” (Obviously, this statement assumes the kids are safe.)
All that to say, just because working is what I want for myself doesn’t mean I’m judging you because you DON’T want that. I mean it.
And I think we are far more alike than different. Here are just a few of the reasons why:
- We both feel guilt.
- We both feel judged.
- We both feel overwhelmed.
- We both work really hard.
- We both want the best for our kids.
Whether you work or not, I think we all deserve our partners to be 50/50 parents. My goal for this blog is to help impact that discussion. If you want to chat further about this topic (or another!), send me a message.
I’ll leave you with this: