Every time I see a news article about gender equality from any publication, I get legitimately excited. Even if it’s not a particularly positive article, I feel hopeful that the more we talk about this issue, the more we can affect change… slowly but surely. Needless to say, seeing a headline from the New York … More Gender Norms Update: New Research Shows Progress… Except When It Comes to Who Should Do Household Chores
For centuries, the role of primary parent has fallen to women across the world. Even women who work outside the home are expected to take on the brunt of both child raising and housework. Yes, in addition to their out-of-the-home jobs. Before I even got pregnant, my husband and I decided that this would not … More How Equal Parenting Can Help Close the Pay Gap
If you’re in your 30s or older, you’ve probably been told over and over and over how much different women are from men. This was largely perpetuated by the famous book, “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex.” The book was written by John Gray, ph.D. … More But… Aren’t Women and Men Wired Differently?
A friend sent me this article, saying it “might be a useful reference for your blog… but beware, it is enraging.” She was right on both accounts. Even though I knew what I was getting into, thanks to her preface, this article still blew me away. In particular, the fact that many couples who were interviewed … More The Current Status on Gender Norms
The mental load of parenting is insane. And historically, this falls to the mom. Why? Gender norms. That’s why. It’s not that moms are better at it or dads aren’t willing. Those things certainly CAN be true, depending on your situation. But that’s not WHY this is a recurring pattern in our society. As with … More 7 Tips For Sharing the Mental Load of Parenting with Your Partner
The minute I got pregnant, I knew that raising a child without strict gender constraints was important to me. I’m not saying that I am going to dress my son as a girl, or that I am going to classify him as non-binary. What I am saying is that I want him to feel comfortable … More Holiday Gift Guide for Toddlers – #EndGenderNorms Edition
When the term “B parent” came to me, which I later changed to “back-up parent” after a friend helped me name this blog, I felt really proud and like I had something unique on my hands. But the truth is, there have been default parents and back-up parents for as long as there have been … More Sharing the Parenting Workload: The Modern-day Back-up Parent is NOT a Bystander
It happens innocently. At a gathering with friends and family, my son will fall down and then immediately begin searching for his dad to pick him up and make everything better. It doesn’t matter if I’m nearby, I’m not usually who he wants in that moment. Until I launched The Back-Up Parent, we hadn’t explicitly talked about our … More Why Gender Norms Need to Be Broken Down