Our Story: So, How Did I Even End up with a Kid to Begin With?

So, how does a self-proclaimed back-up parent who didn’t even really want kids to begin with end up with one? I think people assume I gave into society or gender norms. Or that my husband expected it of me and I obliged. But none of that is true. Let me tell you the story. My … More Our Story: So, How Did I Even End up with a Kid to Begin With?

Sharing the Parenting Workload: The Modern-day Back-up Parent is NOT a Bystander

When the term “B parent” came to me, which I later changed to “back-up parent” after a friend helped me name this blog, I felt really proud and like I had something unique on my hands. But the truth is, there have been default parents and back-up parents for as long as there have been … More Sharing the Parenting Workload: The Modern-day Back-up Parent is NOT a Bystander

Why Gender Norms Need to Be Broken Down

It happens innocently. At a gathering with friends and family, my son will fall down and then immediately begin searching for his dad to pick him up and make everything better. It doesn’t matter if I’m nearby, I’m not usually who he wants in that moment. Until I launched The Back-Up Parent, we hadn’t explicitly talked about our … More Why Gender Norms Need to Be Broken Down